For many, the start of a new year is the time to set new goals and makes lists of aspirations, making new plans for the next 12 months.
This year has been slightly disrupted, as such we can capitalise, we have another chance to press reset and start again.
For some the thought of starting a new project is invigorating, but at times can be hard to feel the enthusiasm for yet another list of resolutions, particularly if they feature some of last years relics. So why not start differently? Set aside some time to weigh up what you want to be the same, and what you want to change. Let your mind roam in search of the goals that mean the most to you, and the enthusiasm this generates will fuel your action plan.
I hope this and the next blog and the next “Do it your way” will help you in this process from setting your goals to getting them off the ground.
Make a start.
We need to know what our goals are before we can chart our path towards them.
For many the start of the year is a time to reflect on the past year, to consider our hopes and expectations for the next.
With this recent and unexpected change, we have been given an opportunity to press the reset, and to start, change or plan a new goal. Perhaps you have a project that you`ve long wanted to set in motion, but have put it off. Or maybe you haven’t set your goals because you’re not sure what you want.
Setting goals enables us to start something that will make a real, positive and measurable difference to our lives. And it’s worth the effort.
“Suggested research from a 15yr Melbourne University study, found that people who had set themselves clear-cut goals were the happiest”.
If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you will fall into someones else’s life plan, and guess what? they have planned for you ? not much or worse nothin…
Live the dream.
With this in mind, now’s the time to uncover your life goals – the ones that truly excite and motivate you. Take the time and create a space in which to dream – a walk in the countryside, coffee in a cafe, your favourite armchair and maybe listening to some music. make sure you have your notebook to record your thoughts and feelings.
To get things going, try asking yourself the following:-
- If I knew I was going to be successful what would i be doing with my life?
- If I had unlimited money and time, how would my life change and what would I do with that time and extra money?
- What did I love doing as a child and how can I replicate similar activities now?
- When no one is placing demands on me, what do I love to do?
Now you’re ready to list your goals. “we will call this time the creative chaos” At the top of your list may be the things that you already know you want to achieve – so get them down first. Now sit back and ask yourself what else you want to achieve.
Start by writing down everything that comes to mind, without self-censoring, even if it seems surprising. Use active and positive phrases, such as:- my goal is to move house, rather than negative or passive lines such as:- I don’t want to stay in this house. Be aware of the tendency to stop partway through your list. You might find yourself thinking that you need to put the washing on, or make a drink, or tidy up. We don’t like doing this stuff because we are opening up to what we really can achieve, so we distract ourselves. “if you really must do something, then do it and come straight back to your list”
When you feel you desperately don’t want to do any more, keep at it, because that’s when you’re getting close.
Make a list.
Making this list can take as little as 10 minutes, or over an hour – it’s different for everyone. You will know when you’re finished, you will get that sense of completion, whether physical or mental. It’s a peaceful feeling rather than thinking “I can’t take any more”. You will feel that you’ve done what’s needed.
Once your list is finished, leave it for 24 hours, then come back to it. You can add to it if you wish. Now take a pen and go through the list, ticking the goals that resonate with you. Again don’t self-censor. Trust your eye and your hands, your logical mind might want to treat some things as a priority, but this part of your brain can be overly influenced by ideas and beliefs that you have picked up from your upbringing, peers and culture. It reflects the “oughts” and “shoulds” rather than capturing what you want.
Edit it down.
When you have ticked the goals that mean the most to you, go through and tick them again, and do this as often as you need until you are left with, at most 5. These are your goals for the time, the year ahead.
Once you have laid this foundation, try propelling yourself forward in your mind’s eye to the end of the timescale/year, then turning to face where you have come, scan the months that have taken you there.
What are you looking back on?
More of the same?
Somewhat changed circumstances?
Something completely new?
Will the intervening months have enabled you to get a new qualification, build a new relationship, relocate your home or resolve an issue that has endured for a long time?
By imagining yourself in the future / a year from now, it becomes easier to identify the goals that are most important to you. And from there you can start plotting what you need to do the next to make them happen.
Taking a reference from DKS BD Business Solutions, They work with clients to create “SMART” solutions, we recommend that you’re more likely to achieve your goals if they are clearly defined thus we have adapted their “SMART” to create a process to make your goals more concrete and emotionally resonant.
Each of your goals should be :-
- Specific: What exactly to I want to achieve?
- Measurable: How will I know i’ve achieved it?
- Achievable: How can my goal be attained? What skills or support do I need?
- Relevant: Is this goal worthwhile to me?
- Timed: When do I plan to start and finish this goal?
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